Lucky Murari's Blog

Most of the 'Single' humans around me are always yearning for a life with a loving partner. Agreed, that since long , I have been (and am ) desperate for a GF of my own :) . And, that has been one of the major factors that has allowed me to observe those love birds around me. With that kind of experience, I can say the following deductions.

Become more responsible:

If the love is really on the air, you can observe that the people who are in it will become more responsible. The life (especially student life) which used to be more of fun and enjoyment will now become responsibilities, aims, goals etc. Agreed, you would anyway have to take up responsibilities in future, but now it comes somewhat early.

Change of Goals/aims:

I am a believer in Change (this is not Obama hype ). Still, this change is different. Especially, if you wanted to take some unconventional path like not applying for a job or taking a filmi career <as opposed to engineering> etc., then you will be forced to change your path. As the responsibilities increased, you need to get settled faster. And, most of the times , decision of the other half will be on priority.

No risks, no adventures:

If you are like me you would like taking risks in life. You might also yearning for adventures. But once you have fallen for someone, you got to lose your risk-taking attitude. There is something/someone you have gained recently and hence don't want to lose them. You might think, before also you had parents, siblings etc., who stop you from taking risks. But the attitude is different. Previously, you would have thought, if something happens to me there are my parents to take care of. Now its different. If something happens to me, who will take care of my loved one?

No freedom of..:

Previously, taking advantage of your 'single' status you could have flirted with anyone, commented on a girl/guy, boozed out with friends etc. Now you don't have that freedom. Obviously, your loved one wouldn't allow you to flirt with someone else. Moreover, everyone knows you are nomore 'single' and hence you won't get a person to flirt with eventhough your lover is generous enough to allow you to flirt. You couldn't comment on a girl/guy coz most of the times that person will turn out to be a friend or relative to your loved ones. Booze out with friends- forget that coz now you are health, money, and lover-conscious.

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PS: I am still single and am in search of a GF. Anyone interested can forget what is said above and contact me :) Read the full story

Ha, may be my last post has made some chaotic remarks and might have produced a highly confused state in atleast some minds and questions like "Has he gone mad?","Is he highly pessimistic?","Am I so lonely?" etc.But the answer to the question at the is perfectly answere by one of the readers by a weird name "makinhellaperfectplace2enjoy" .That is exactly what I wanted to convey.Ofcourse, there is also something extra(otherwise this post wouldn't have made it way here :) ).

Yeah, continuing with the last post.

It is you, the idiot, who has left all your old relations and fell behind the new ones.

But what is the reason behind? See deep into the heart and you will know.In most of the cases(well most) , you did not break the relation. It's just that you have moved away from the person involved and the relation slowly got vanished.But still the relation always exists there as a strong entity. It's kind of like the case in which you are in a well with a good rope to help making way out.Though you are currently not on the surface, you still are sure you can get to the top as and when you want.This case is a similar one ( well, you may not really be in a well now and may be in a heaven sorts.Still, this holds) . So you can bring back most of your relations by a simple initiative.May be some times a snail mail does it all.So it's not that you are lonely. It's just that you got a new land to stay on.

But what is it that makes you move far from all your current relationships? To be frank, it's just how a human mind is made of. Human mind always wishes for a change in life.I am sure all those seemingly "contented" people still seek a change in the way they live.And this is how it will always be.A college going student thinks "Ohh! God save me from these assignments".But when God blesses him/her with what (s)he wished for by giving unexpected holidays, he says , "Damn these hols! Gotta get some work man!". This kinding of thinking of human makes him/her to change his daily chore(BTW if it's changing why is it called a chore).When you change your chore, you sure have to change some things in life.One of those is the people with whom you remain in contact. Your relation with your parents changes only when you get a new job and find no time.You missed the relation with your siblings only when they are married(a change of chore ;)) or some other change.You got away from your old friends only when you changed to a new school or college.So, my friend, it's all dynamic.Life changes and so you have to change your relations.So again the question comes.

Is there not one relation which I can say is everlasting?


For this what I can do is quote the best possible explanation by makinhellaperfectplace2enjoy :


such a relationship exists n its the relationship u have with urself...............

a person knows ,somewhere deep in his heart WHAT HE IS>>>>

the relationship is constant and permanent and always getting stronger as he explores himself with each passing moment...

THE momentum of centre of mass in CM frame is zero..

I would also like to add one my favorite quote to it.

ME is Matter and Energy.ME can neither be created nor destroyed.It can only be changed from one form to other.

So make friends with ME.Though you know or not, you are already doing it.It's inside you and your relation gets better with every experience of the so called relations. Read the full story